Thursday, July 30, 2009

सिलामी व व्याह भाग 2

रीति रिवाज़: सिलामी और व्याह भाग १  से आगे :

उस समय शादी कम उमर में ही हो जाती थी लेकिन लड़की पियर में ही रहती थी। थोडी बड़ी होने के बाद (मुख्यतः मासिक धर्मं होने के बाद) लड़की को बिदा किया जाता था एवं उसके बाद ही लड़की ससुराल जाती थी। पीहर से बिदा होने की यह रश्म सावन के महीने में ही होती थी इसलिए इसे सावन मोकलाई कहते थे। मोकलाई का अर्थ मारवाडी भाषा में भेजना होता है।

अजीमगंज के बड़े मन्दिर में एक खाता रखा जाता था जिसे केसरिया व्रत का खाता कहते थे। इस खाते में शादी से संवंधित सभी बातें दर्ज की जाती थी। इसमें वर वधु के नाम, माता-पिता, पता आदि सभी बातें दर्ज होती थी। शादी के अवसर पर लड़के वालों से एक निश्चित शुल्क ले कर ही इस खाते में नाम दर्ज किया जाता था। उस राशि में मन्दिर, गुरूजी (यती जी), मन्दिर के पुजारी अदि सभी का हिस्सा होता था। एक प्रकार से यह विवाह की रजिस्ट्री होती थी।

शादी के बाद विदा करते समय लड़की को डोली में बैठा कर भेजा जाता था। इस डोली को झपानक कहते थे। उस समय की औरतें एवं लड़कियां अक्सर झपानक में ही कहीं आया जाया करती थीं। साधारण स्थिति वाले लोगों के यहाँ झपानक नहीं होने पर कोठियों मंगवा लिया जाता था। कुछ समय पूर्व तक राजवाडी (राजा विजय सिंह जी दुधोरिया) में एक झपानक था।

विशेष द्रस्टव्य: ये सारी जानकारी मुझे श्री अशोक सेठिया से मिली है एवं इसके लिए मैं उनका आभारी हूँ।
यदि आपके पास भी अजीमगंज-जियागंज शहरवाली समाज के वारे में कोई जानकारी हो तो हमें लिखना न भूलें। उसे आपके नाम के साथ प्रकाशित किया जाएगा।

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  1. Dear all Shaharwalis,
    I have created this blog to collect and preserve the history and rich culture of Shaharwali society of Azimgabj-Jiaganj-Murshidabad.

    Our society is scattered now and this can be proved as a meeting place for all.

    I know Shaharwali people living at different places in India such as Kolkata, Delhi, Mumbai, Chennai, Bangalore, Hyderabad, Raipur, Jaipur,Tejpur, Patna, Kanpur, Lucknow, Palitana etc.

    Many of us are living overseas too e.g. New York, London, Moscow, Doha, Bangkok, Tokyo, Edinborough (USA) etc.

    It is very difficult for all of them to be connected. This blog can be a common meeting place for all of them. This can be happened only with your active co-operation.

    I, therefore, urge all of you to send information, news, events, photographs, videos and what not. Please also include your web sites and E-mail addresses here so that Shaharwali people can know and connect with each other.

    Jyoti Kothari

  2. Hi, I must congratulate you personally for this initiative. Nice to visit this site and feel the pulse of Jiagung. I am Prabir Dugar, son of Late Shri Benoy Chandji Dugar from the family of Hira Chandji Dugar, renowned Artist. My Babaji was Late Shri Indra Dugar. I am married to Suchita, d/o Shri Sajan Singhji Nahar. My sister in law Rita Parson married to Dr Narendra Parson is residing at LA. We live in Mumbai and my youngest Sister in law is also at Thane, Mumbai.
    we have three daughters Tulika (married to Siddharth Bothra, Director Finance with T Mobile, of Gauhati with a son Rahul age 8 and daughter Rymah age 8 months)settled at Seatlle. Aloka/Sarika (married to Nilesh Parson working as a Principal with Microsoft and with a son Aatish age 8). The youngest Preetika is married to Comander Rohit Dalaya (Pilot with Air India). I am excited to be in touch with our Shaharwalis and keep the rich culture and finesse alive.
    Prabir Dugar.

  3. Hi Pravir,
    Thanks for your comment and valuable input. To the best of my knowledge, one of the daughters of late Gambhir Chand Sethia, Azimganj, was married in your family. Is it right? Please info her details.

    Sunanda Mukim, daughter of Indra Dugar is my Bhabhi. Mr. Jainiendra Mukim, her husband is son of my maternal uncle.

    Thanks again and looking forward to more info from your side.

    Jyoti Kothari

  4. Hi Jyoti Bhai,
    great to see this site blog here.You have been spear heading the documentation of this Jain clan from West Bengal very nicely.
    I wish to add here the details of whatever I know.
    Bhandia family in Kolkata is a well known Johri Saath group who have been renowned for their Jewellery and Gem Stone business.
    My Grandfather Late Sri Puran Chandji Bhandia ( Johri ) Married as his second wife Smt. Suhag Sundari from the Kothari Family of Guahati who belonged to the Jiyaganj Azimganj Clan of Jains. I am the last grandson of her last son Late Shri.Kiron Singhji Bhandia residing in Coimbatore in Tamil Nadu associated in Jewellery and Textile Business. My Elder Brother Naresh Bhandia lives in Bangalore associated in manufacturing of PP Woven Sacs required in the cement industry. I will be glad to know more and even contribute to the efforts you are taking. Please feel free to get in touch. I have a Family histry Tree for our family contributing data of 13 generations. I will be happy to put in inputs in it if you have any.
    thanks and regards
    Dinesh Kumar Bhandia.

  5. Wow! This is awesome. I am settled in the USA, Tulika Dugar daughter of Pravir Dugar/Suchita Dugar and grand daughter of Late Shri Benoy Dugar and Suhag Dugar. This is a pleasure to connect with people from our heritage. Brings back some fresh memories even though long long time ago. My husband Siddharth and I are trying our best to keep our sheherwali culture alive by talking in the Azimganj-Jiaganj dialect. We love it and our children also love it.
    This is awesome. My email is I look forward to hearing back from you and so happy we can do this.
    Thank you once again!